GLR Spotlight is an interview series featuring Matchmakers, Dating Coaches & Relationship Experts
Global Love Report – May 1st, 2024
Interviewed by Global Love Report
Global Love Spotlight was created to feature some of our industry peers as a way for our community to get to know one another. Learn from what has worked successfully, as well as gain different perspectives and insights into various business strategies. We hope to continuously grow as an industry together by sharing these best practices with everyone!
About Mila Smith
Mila Smith is a newly certified Dating & Relationship Coach. She decided with a passion for helping individuals find the love they deserve. Alongside her husband, she created an online dating advice program that offers insights from both male and female perspectives.
Discover more about her captivating journey in the interview below!
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Global Love Report Interview
Global Love Report (GLR): What made you decide to become a dating and relationship coach?
Mila Smith (MS): After 20+ years in the corporate business world, I decided to turn to something I am passionate about helping women and men find the love they deserve as a Dating & Relationship Coach.
Why? Seven years ago, I was a single mum with a questionable relationship track record – I used to think I was unlucky until I worked out it had nothing to do with luck and everything to do with my choices, which is when I started educating myself…
Meanwhile, my now husband was halfway through a difficult divorce, while dipping his toes in the treacherous waters of dating, asking himself the same question: “What am I doing wrong?”…
We were no exception: there is a huge requirement for support in the UK as many people are lacking awareness, struggling to find suitable partners, and building lasting loving relationships. Initially, my husband and I together created an online dating advice program offering both male and female perspectives; and subsequently, I took the science-based coaching course to expand my knowledge.
GLR: How do you think singles will benefit from a matchmaker with coaching skills?
MS: I do not offer matchmaking services; however, the benefits of dating/relationship coaching are immeasurable and will help singles avoid costly mistakes, focus on identifying their needs, choose wisely, and, finally, build a lasting loving relationship.
We go on personal development and parenting courses, pay career coaches to ensure success, etc. Dating often isn’t taken quite as seriously, but just think how important choosing a potential partner is. Without a doubt, it’s one of the life-changing decisions, that impacts our future, as well as the future of our children.
GLR: What’s something new that you’ve learned that you’re excited to implement in your own business?
MS: I love various client questionnaires and exercises provided by Dr. Terri Orbuch. I am particularly impressed by the 21-day action plan which helps clients adopt new habits or lose some bad ones. Great to know anyone can change when they set achievable gradual goals – I am definitely putting this into practice.
GLR: What’s something that you learned from the course that surprised you?
MS: It was probably having this myth debunked: “The best relationships are ones with no conflict/disagreements”. To my surprise, turns out such relationships are the ones likely to fail!
Personally, I hate conflict, however, I now realize that a debate or even a disagreement, as long as it remains polite and respectful, is normal and healthy in any relationship.
GLR: What advice do you have for those who want to become a dating and relationship coach?
MS: If you have the empathy and the patience – go for it! You can make a significant difference to someone’s love life and help them find happiness.
There is an added bonus: no matter where you are on your personal journey, you can use all the tips and knowledge in your own relationship(s)!
GLR: How do you approach working with clients who have different needs and goals when it comes to dating?
MS: I have learned one important thing from Dr. Terri Orbuch: we try to avoid “should” statements or tell clients what to do. It is not easy as there is always a temptation to break into a lecture.
However, our job as a coach is to line up the facts in front of a client encouraging them to identify their needs, goals, and any discrepancies. Thus, leading to better decisions and outcomes.
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