GLR Spotlight is an interview series featuring Matchmakers, Dating Coaches & Relationship Experts
Global Love Report – February 28th, 2024
Interviewed by Global Love Report
Global Love Spotlight was created to feature some of our industry peers as a way for our community to get to know one another. Learn from what has worked successfully, as well as gain different perspectives and insights into various business strategies. We hope to continuously grow as an industry together by sharing these best practices with everyone!
About Amy Van Doran
Amy Van Doran is the CEO of the New York-based matchmaking agency, Modern Love Club. She has been in business for over 15+ years and has interviewed more than 15,000 people. As a certified dating and relationship coach, Amy Van Doran has a unique approach to assisting her clients.
Discover more about her captivating journey in the interview below!
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Global Love Report Interview
Global Love Report (GLR): What made you become a dating and relationship coach?
Amy Van Doran (AVD): I have always loved the coaching aspect of matchmaking. I started my career with a durational art piece when I was 22 called “The Matchmaker is Present” where I would advise anyone in the park who approached me needing love help.
You can’t always guarantee that you can find a client their forever perfect partner, but with coaching, you can guarantee that the client will be closer to their goal than when they started.
GLR: How do you think singles will benefit from a matchmaker with coaching skills?
AVD: Often, by the time the client comes to a matchmaker, it’s because they have been trying an old strategy that didn’t serve them.
It doesn’t matter how perfect a match you put in front of the client if they don’t have the skill set to land the date! It is crucial that any great matchmaker has the kind and generous communication strategies to help open the client’s eyes to what they can’t observe about themself.
But, always make sure the feedback is given with lots of kindness and in an emotionally safe container, if the feedback is given too harshly a client could shut down and go backward on their dating journey.
GLR: What’s something new that you’ve learned that you’re excited to implement in your own business?
AVD: Utilizing CHAT GPT to help save time in writing social media posts as well as rewriting and optimizing clients’ profiles.
GLR: What’s something that you learned from the course that surprised you?
AVD: I learned that coaching is such an empowering present-centered practice. While therapy can take years to unpack, and can sometimes even get a client stuck in past narratives, coaching calls have proved to empower and ground them in the present time. Which I’ve noticed helps them to move more swiftly towards their goals.
GLR: Who do you aspire to be as a coach (e.g. Matthew Hussey, James Preece, etc.)? And why?
AVD: Myself! Always authentically be who you are as a coach because the clients will know if you are trying to emulate someone else. The greatest gift you can give a client is the gift of your vulnerability and authentic self.
Draw from the lessons from what struggles you have gone through and overcome. If they want Matthew Hussy, there is already a Matthew Hussy for them to go to. The world needs your authentic voice!
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